In 2006, I was all about becoming a bride. I wanted to look the best I could for the big day and had a personal trainer, lost about 30 lbs and learned all about the luxury of airbrush tanning.
That's when I first heard about Melissa. Someone told me about a woman who was really gifted at shaping eye brows. So I went to a little spa in Little Silver to see about getting my brows shaped.
I remember meeting Melissa vividly. It was if everything just stopped and paused. I sensed that this simple appointment wasn't simple at all, that suddenly I was in the presence of someone special. Really really freakin' special.
I've met many celebrities before; I used to work in NYC for a film company. You know the supposed "beautiful people" that have it all and you imagine them to be so perfect in real life? Not so much.
In my entire life, not one "beautiful person" has ever stood up to Melissa's beauty. If I had to describe her energy, it would be a mixture of pure white light and diamonds. If I were to meet the Dalai Llama, I would expect to feel how I felt around Melissa. It was as if I had entered a spiritual, holy realm and she was a Goddess.
Melissa was so gifted at shaping brows that she went from working in a tiny spa in Little Silver, to working in a much larger place in Shrewsbury, to owning her own extremely successful company called the Arch Brow Bar . The funny part is each person that shapes brows is called an "Arch Angel". And that's exactly what she seems like to me, an angel.
Through my visits with her, we discussed many topics. Always spiritual in nature, we both had an affinity for things like astrology and psychics and past lives. It was like talking to a sister that I barely knew but knew completely.
I recall often asking her if she had someone special in her life. The answer was always no. It blew me away. How could someone so insanely special and beautiful not have found true love yet?
The last time I saw Melissa, was in 2010. My niece Becky had just gotten engaged and she wanted her brows to be beautiful like mine were. I couldn't wait for them to meet because Becky is so incredibly special too. I never saw her again but through Facebook we occasionally would send brief messages to each other. The typical acquaintance type of relationship on Facebook.
Last year, Melissa started posting photos with a man named Craig. You could see the happiness in the photos. I was so happy she had found love! Then she posted about him undergoing chemotherapy treatments. I messaged her, saying they were in my thoughts and prayers. She thanked me and said "Thank you, Julie. I'm where I am supposed to be. No matter what the outcome."
I was so happy she had found where she was supposed to be. Because really, what else is there?
Last month, I was thrilled to see Melissa posting photos of her wedding day. The photos were stunning. She was radiant, they looked so happy. That was November 1st.
On December 1st, only one month later, Craig passed away. I found out last night, through Facebook.
This news touched my heart on so many levels. I feel so sad for her, yet so happy for her because I know she is grateful for having found him. She will now be a stepmother to his four children as well as her own beautiful son. I know she will be a blessing to his children and I know she will carry his love in her heart forever. Her favorite song is Somewhere Over the Rainbow. Someday, they will be together again, with the rainbow as their dance floor.
I am writing all of this because my heart needs to. Because someone I met in such a casual way touched my life so deeply and I want to spread her message of love and light. She is Love.
I ask that you keep Melissa and her family in your prayers. I know she will be okay.
Just so you can see how strong she is, this is what she wrote on her Facebook page last night:
"As I read all of your posts and messages I am filled with gratitude for the outpouring of support for our family as we mourn the loss of my incredibly
courageous husband and best friend Craig Bahrs. I hope you all know how deeply touched I am by your words. I have not been able to respond to each of you individually but please know that I am grateful for all of your support and it truly helps lift me up. We fought this battle against cancer together and I feel it was an honor and a privilege to take this journey with Craig. I believe that love is eternal and the time will come one day when I see that beautiful smile of Craig's waiting for me. I am touched by the tremendous honor the Middletown Township Police Department have shown their Deputy Chief of Police."
And this is an article about her step-son Craig scoring a goal in his hockey game less than 24 hours after his father died.